Getting back into writing….

What in the world!? It’s now 2020! I haven’t even logged into my blog site in two years. I feel like so much has happened!

After starting a Youtube channel this year, it got me thinking about my blog. I miss writing a lot and now that I have a computer, I have no excuse not to!

A lot of the topics on my youtube channel pertain to helping Men deal with life’s biggest challenges. So I will be gearing a lot of my blog posts toward that as well!

Look forward to getting back into it!

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The true plateau

IMG_2597It has been quite a while since my last post. To be honest, I write on my phone because my computer is so old, it is not compatible with this site, so it’s difficult to type 600 words like a text message! How sad right?

The motivational levels have been all over the place in the last couple months!

The end of January brought me to a place of extreme focus and motivation. I was eager to workout and continue to grow my mind, body and spirit. To say the least, I was crushing it for about 2 months until I slammed into a major wall. I was on a path of consistency that I have never experienced before and out of nowhere I lost all focus. A great question to follow this would be well, why?? The truth is i have no idea!! The worst part is it began to affect not only the gym, but everything!  Getting out of bed is the biggest struggle of all. Every night I set my alarm for 5am and every morning I wake up at 7:30!! I have 0 motivation to jump up and attack the day. Most days after getting through the work day, I end up on the couch feeling numb all over. I get lost in my phone and ignore everything around me, falling head first into technology. It’s crazy how out of nowhere things can just stop.

I will admit things have been stressful lately at work,  however I’ve always been able to push through it. The stress this last couple weeks has been heavy so a lot has been weighing down. I have been trying to have mental clarity and just stop for two seconds to take a breath or take a break from the chaos around me. Setting new goals and wanting to achieve new things will certainly help me get focused again and of course getting my butt out of bed and into the gym! It’s crazy how much a lack of physical activity affects everything else around you!! Stay focused!

Mental battle

img_2169Why are we as humans naturally lazy? How can we overcome this feeling of laziness? Are we really as tired as we say we are? One thing that I have struggled with my whole life is consistency and sticking with something for a long period of time. Waking up early, going to the gym 5-6 times a week, eating healthy, etc. These are all things most people want in their lives but rarely achieve for a long period of time. For me, the longest I’ve been consistent with the gym is 3 months and then I will slowly begin to fall off the wagon and not go. Then I will get motivated again after a week or so and then repeat the cycle. Why is consistency so difficult?? I have learned over this past year that “motivation” is not enough to accomplish goals. Why? Motivation is a temporary fix that has no long-term effect. Think about times when you needed motivation in your life. You found it from music, other people, buying a product, etc. but at some point I bet that motivation ended and you had to find more. Motivation is like caffeine, you get some and it gives you a quick burst of “life” and then it wears off and you need more to feel energized again. Now I’m not saying getting motivated is always a bad thing, however when it comes to lifestyle choices it will not be a long term effect.

Motivation is a temporary fix”

So what is the answer? Well, honestly I am still working on finding the answer. The best start would be to begin changing your lifestyle. This is a difficult thing to do because of people around you and because it forces you to give up things you “enjoy.” Staying up late to watch TV will cause you to over sleep or wake up feeling like a zombie. Not eating for a long period of time will cause you to have sporadic cravings and binge eat. Throwing off your schedule over the weekend makes Monday morning feel impossible. These are all lifestyle changes that have a negative or positive effect on how you feel. Is the big game worth you feeling like garbage the next day? For some I’m sure it is. It all comes back to how bad you want something. I mean REALLY want something. To really have a full grasp on something and make it a consistent habit, I would say you have to do it everyday for at least a year. A lot of things are labeled “12 week transformation” or even “6 month” but really people don’t begin to change their minds until they physically see or feel results. That is the true “motivation” that drives people: results. However everything tells you it will be a quick fix, immediate results, or overnight changes. How can we have long-term consistency if we are obsessed with having overnight success? Results take time and I mean reat-time. If you want to lose weight, it’s going to take years. If you want a perfect and successful business, it will take more than one week. We need to start focusing on slowing things down and building on that consistency overtime rather than expect results after one day and give up when we don’t get it. Slow things down and focus on your goals for at least one year so you can begin working toward that better lifestyle.

Expecting more from doing less.

img_1836Last night I decided to have a staff meeting with our store to go over problems and issues we have been having. Meetings like this are always difficult because it is hard to plan them around everyone’s schedule. So at 9:30pm last night we rounded up the staff to go over a few things. This was also the first meeting we have had since I took over this location from the previous manager. One issue we have been having, and in my opinion the most destructive issue, was everyone has had a very strong feeling of entitlement. The funny thing was the majority of them didn’t know what that word meant! So having a group of people who felt like they deserved so much for doing so little was becoming an issue. Some of them are going through a lot in their lives just like most people in the world, however I explained to them that when someone expects a handout, they will never learn to stand on their own two feet. They will always be expecting that next handout. So my (harsh) advice to them was to simply work harder!! I explained to them that it’s not that people can’t empathize with them about their issues, however I simply want them to just work harder! I told them “Nobody cares, work harder!” Now of course deep down I do care and I want them to feel like they can talk to me about their issues, however if they are looking for a handout, I am not their guy.

Becoming a business owner has taught me a lot and has certainly caused me to face some challenges. However, these challenges are the reason I’m still growing and not standing still. I strive to challenge my staff everyday to be better workers, but most important to be better people! Trying to get a 17-year-old kid to understand the importance of wearing a belt, in this day and age, is not an easy task. However that belt signifies much more than something to hold up his pants. Wearing that belt sets you apart from everyone else: you look professional, you look sharp and mature, and of course your pants won’t be sagging to the floor!! I can’t tell you how many excuses I get as to why someone forgets something so simple like a belt. “Excuses only satisfy those who make them!” This quote goes nicely with telling people nobody cares, work harder. I understand that in certain situations these things won’t apply and people legitimately need help and that is okay, however the examples I deal with are on a very small-scale and people expect help because they have never been challenged enough to stand on their own two feet.

Excuses only satisfy those who make them”

I always tell my employees to prove to me you deserve what you’re asking for whether it be more hours or more pay. Asking me for it means nothing if your’re not willing to work for it. Put the time and effort in first and then tell me what you want because your more likely to receive it. These are principles that apply in anything, you can’t treat your spouse like garbage and then ask for love! You can’t eat McDonald’s all year and then ask why your overweight!  Put the work in and then you won’t have to ask for anything because results will come. Just work harder…..