What in the world!? It’s now 2020! I haven’t even logged into my blog site in two years. I feel like so much has happened!
After starting a Youtube channel this year, it got me thinking about my blog. I miss writing a lot and now that I have a computer, I have no excuse not to!
A lot of the topics on my youtube channel pertain to helping Men deal with life’s biggest challenges. So I will be gearing a lot of my blog posts toward that as well!
Look forward to getting back into it!
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Why are we as humans naturally lazy? How can we overcome this feeling of laziness? Are we really as tired as we say we are? One thing that I have struggled with my whole life is consistency and sticking with something for a long period of time. Waking up early, going to the gym 5-6 times a week, eating healthy, etc. These are all things most people want in their lives but rarely achieve for a long period of time. For me, the longest I’ve been consistent with the gym is 3 months and then I will slowly begin to fall off the wagon and not go. Then I will get motivated again after a week or so and then repeat the cycle. Why is consistency so difficult?? I have learned over this past year that “motivation” is not enough to accomplish goals. Why? Motivation is a temporary fix that has no long-term effect. Think about times when you needed motivation in your life. You found it from music, other people, buying a product, etc. but at some point I bet that motivation ended and you had to find more. Motivation is like caffeine, you get some and it gives you a quick burst of “life” and then it wears off and you need more to feel energized again. Now I’m not saying getting motivated is always a bad thing, however when it comes to lifestyle choices it will not be a long term effect.
Last night I decided to have a staff meeting with our store to go over problems and issues we have been having. Meetings like this are always difficult because it is hard to plan them around everyone’s schedule. So at 9:30pm last night we rounded up the staff to go over a few things. This was also the first meeting we have had since I took over this location from the previous manager. One issue we have been having, and in my opinion the most destructive issue, was everyone has had a very strong feeling of entitlement. The funny thing was the majority of them didn’t know what that word meant! So having a group of people who felt like they deserved so much for doing so little was becoming an issue. Some of them are going through a lot in their lives just like most people in the world, however I explained to them that when someone expects a handout, they will never learn to stand on their own two feet. They will always be expecting that next handout. So my (harsh) advice to them was to simply work harder!! I explained to them that it’s not that people can’t empathize with them about their issues, however I simply want them to just work harder! I told them “Nobody cares, work harder!” Now of course deep down I do care and I want them to feel like they can talk to me about their issues, however if they are looking for a handout, I am not their guy.
Failure….it is such a difficult term to discuss because everyone fears it more than anything. The number one thing I hear in my business when I ask what someone is most afraid of, their answer, 9 out of 10 times is “failure.” What is failure?? Why do people fear it?? The reality is we fail everyday multiple times because we are imperfect people. Let’s say your goal is to wake up at 6am and your alarm goes off and you hit the snooze button a few times. You just failed. Something so simple that may not impact your life that much, yet still a failure. However people don’t fear this! Your not afraid to hit the snooze button because it provides you with comfort. Many people would say that COMFORT is FAILURE. When my alarm goes off at 4:30am and I don’t wake up on time, I have guilt. If I miss a day at the gym because I am to lazy to simply get my butt out the door, I have guilt. It bothers me when I set these goals and I do not achieve them. What level of failure is enough to get you motivated?
Ever met someone who has all the potential in the world to do anything they want? However………they don’t use it?? Have you ever wondered why?? Yeah, me too! In my line of work, I see a lot of young people (and older people) who have so much potential in a variety of things, however they don’t utilize it! This is something that is very frustrating to me because I enjoy watching people succeed. So let’s start with why they don’t even realize their potential…it’s because no one has told them!! What a simple concept right?? Have you ever looked at someone and simply said: “wow, you have so much potential!” Most people would respond with a dumbfounded look! Unless they were brought up in a home that encouraged potential, which is becoming more rare these days, the majority of people have never been given that positive vision for their life. I am a firm believer that anyone can do anything they want if they truly want it. However most people want things, but if it’s to hard to achieve, they don’t really want it anymore. Now, for myself, I do not think I could ever be a brain surgeon or neuroscientist, however I also have no interest in these either. My passion lies elsewhere so could I have done those things? Maybe, but I wouldn’t be happy.
Ryan Gibbons 